Wednesday, October 28, 2009 a Relationship

The meaning of relationship:
1. connection: a significant connection or similarity between two or more things, or the state of being related to something else
2. behaviour or feelings towards somebody else: the connection between two or more people or groups and their involvement with one another, especially as regards the way they behave towards and feel about one another
3. friendship: an emotionally close friendship, especially one involving sexual activity
4. connection by family: the way in which two or more people are related by birth, adoption, or marriage, or the fact of being related by birth, adoption, or marriage (msn encarta)

Relationship is a heavy duty word and very often misused. When one says that one is in a relationship, I believe it is as defined in definition (3); having an emotionally close friendship usually sparked by sexual attraction which as the definition suggests may eventually lead to sexual activity.

How I cringe when I hear a young teen says that he/she is in a relationship. Maybe what is meant is he/she has committed to get to know the other person better.

I believe there are many steps to take before one plunges into a relationship:
1. being friends....just hanging around and getting to know each other. This can be done in a group or individually.

2. dating... the friendship between the two goes to another level; when there is mutual agreement to regard each other in a special way and not just as common friends.

3. courting....a more serious version of dating where the couple is now ready for marriage. So the whole dating friendship turns into a courting relationship.

4. marriage.....the beginning of a relationship between husband and wife.

Therefore if a 15year old confesses to a relationship; I would scratch my head and try to think which level does she/he mean? At the tender age of 15; one is still a child (no matter how you protest, you are) and I think the friendship is still too early to take off to a higher level.

Now how would one know if one is ready for which level....not that I am a Tok Guru in this field but I think I have read and seen enough to give my opinion. I'll leave this to part 2.


AJ7 said...

In relationship - means got bf/gf ad-lah. Welcome into the world of teenagers! LOL!

PreciousPearl said...

eh, i thot your kids a bit young yet for boy/girl relationships?
nothing like starting them early? :p

SM Ting said...

Ya..they are still young; just responding to students. Actually I'm using this opportuinity to put some guidelines across as my kids love reading my blog and I think this helps to pass the message to them indirectly. Infact the gal is asking for more on this topic. I wrote the second part to it...but lost it with just one careless press on a key. Geram. Now hv to let the mind focus again.